NavigatingMemoryCareCommunityOptions
Major life occurrences can happen at any time. Such as, when you find out that your loved one has dementia and the doctor is saying that you “must” find a “place” for them to live; they can no longer safely live at home. You hear those words and try to stay focused as your head is spinning. So many questions are running through your brain. What now? What does this mean? What can we do? Who do we trust?
There is a great deal of support you can call on for assistance, so you’re not alone. It’s also important to note that it can be a slow process as it takes time and education to find the right place that will be a good fit for your loved one. Most senior living communities have a difference in philosophy and program they tout and it can be challenging to figure out what this means for your loved one. How are you to know which setting and program will be best fit?
As you begin your research, you might feel overwhelmed. Just keep in mind that life is like a symphony of different sounds with crescendos, times of allegros and rests. As the volume and speed increases the music seems to spin out of control, but each of us has the power to conduct our own symphony, to conduct it back to the sounds and pace that helps us relax, enjoy and move us to our own calming place intrinsically.
So, how do you take control to be the conductor of your Symphony of Life movement?
First, you need to allow yourself permission to ask hard questions from the senior communities you are interviewing and expect they are answering with honesty and transparency. If you don’t feel they are being forthright, then maybe you should consider another community.
Second, is to ask the right questions. Such as:
- Why is it important to keep the body moving and how would you be able to make this happen for my loved one?
- Why is it important to promote brain health? How do you accomplish this?
- Why is it important to lift spirits and to have faith-based activities? What does this look like in your community?
- Why is it important to feel a part of a community? How are you going to help make my loved one feel a part of your community? How are you going to help me feel a part of your community?
- What can I do to keep them at home? Remember that staying at home can be an option and should always be discussed.
Understand that emotions are high for all who are personally involved when navigating this challenging time. You have the right to expect that senior living professionals are here to answer your questions and guide you through the symphony of this decision-making process in order to determine what the best and right choices are for you and your loved one. You should accept nothing less.
This article is brought to you by 12 Oaks Senior Living.